Burlingame Rotary Club
Founded in 1925

High Gear Bulletin


Zoom Meeting - Wednesday, April 28, 2021

High Gear Editor: Guy Smiley

The meeting started at 12:15 with ding of grandma’s bell.
Phillip Larson led us in the pledge from the 16th hole at Pasatiempo.
When Paul asked Pierre to do the invocation, Pierre was in the process of cleaning out his files as he was packing up to move to Burlingame. He explained that either he went through them or someone else would. In the case of someone else, the result is that someone wondering what you were thinking” Too true, Pierre.
During his clean-up, Pierre found a list of words that he’d written into columns—the left being for basic words and the right for thoughts they triggered. After a brief intermission to get his spectacles, Pierre shared a few of these with us.
Admire it
Realize, challenge, need it
Play it
Sing it
Confront it
Make it
Enjoy it
At the bottom left of the page, Pierre had written:  Thank you, Mother Theresa.
Guests of the Club
Our speaker, Dr. Sara Zeff Geber
Few quick things from Emily:
  • Happy hour will be Friday @ 5
  • Spring Golf Tournament will be Monday, May 3—we’ll have a fund-a-need, but not doing big sponsorships, really just want people to come play. The Fiesta Cart will be roving the course with pre-Cinco de Mayo treats. Please sign up and invite friends to support us.
  • Holiday party do-over at Filoli on June 27, 4-6:30—please join us and bring friends
  • Delia Montano’s husband Genesis remains in the hospital. He’s not doing well. She asks for prayers.
Breakout Rooms
We had two five-minute breakout rooms.
In response to a comment about seeing people in the squares, Pierre shared a favorite line from Vic Mangini, “It’s better to be seen rather than viewed.”
There was some discussion about returning to live lunches. Jerry Winges suggested that we could do one live a month and have the rest be Zoom. The Board has a working group that is reviewing options for lunch. More on that expected by June.
What Newscast+ would be complete without a report on what special occasions fall on this day. Fritz told us that it’s National Blueberry Pie Day. He encouraged anyone who didn’t have a blueberry pie on hand to celebrate, can order one from Instacart, and it’ll be there by the end of the day. Queuing off National Blueberry Pie Day, Fritz did a quick poll asking who liked vanilla ice cream with their pie. The majority voted yes. Next, he asked who likes peach ice cream on top of blueberry pie. The response was a hard no (this reporter is still shaken by the thought of that).
Fritz also noted that as we come to close to the end of National Poetry Month, today is National Great Poetry Reading Day. Then, he regaled us with what he remembered of Longfellow’s Paul Revere’s Ride—Listen, and you shall hear…  Christine Krolik chimed in with Will You Walk into My Parlour?  With Icabod peering over his shoulder, Michael Kimball threw Shakespeare into poetry slam with Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? (Sonnet 18). Kimball followed up with suggested poems to read out loud:
More poetry suggestions available upon request. Contact Michael Kimball.
Burlingame Community Center Sponsorship Update
President-Elect Joe La Mariana let us know that the Board voted 12-1 for a $25,000 Burlingame Community Center Legacy Sponsorship. The Rotary Club of Burlingame will be recognized in the new center with a plaque outside of the Teen Room and included in Capital Campaign promotional content. We will also be invited for a tour as soon as the building can host “hard-hat” tours.
Joe noted that he spoke with dozens of Club members as part of his outreach in advance of the Board’s discussion about the sponsorship opportunity. Following are a few of his takeaways.
The greater Rotary (RI and District) is increasingly aware of how we are doing branding in the community. They emphasize the importance and the benefits. Branding at the community level promotes great fellowship amongst community members, potential Club members, and each other.
Most Burlingame Rotarians would like to contemplate an expansion of how we support our community by expanding contributions beyond academic scholarships.
Joe acknowledged that we could not be all things to all people. There will never be 100% agreement on how our money is spent. As opportunities come up, we owe it to ourselves to evaluate if the opportunity is aligned with goals and consider supporting it—at a community and international level.
Fritz introduced his friend and our speaker, Dr. Sara Zeff Geber, who has developed a niche specialty as an expert in “Solo Aging.” She is an author, certified retirement coach, and professional speaker on retirement and aging. Through her books, public speaking, and coaching, she guides people who have no children or aging alone to have a safe, fulfilling life in their retirement years. Dr. Geber is a recipient of the “2018 Influencers in Aging” designation by PBS’s Next Avenue. She believes Solo Agers have unique needs in later life that warrant greater foresight and a more robust approach to planning.
Sara explained that this started about 7-8 years ago when she started looking around and saw friends, colleagues, and people from work—basically everyone from the baby boomer age group—taking care of aging parents. She explained that these parents were getting into their 80s and 90s—ages at which it not easy to get around, and frailty sets in on them. She saw these people flying from coast to coast and spending weekends helping parents at home. Talking to a friend, she brought up the fact that they didn’t have kids, so who would take care of them. This prompted Sara to look for information about what to do. She looked around and realized that there was very little available about child-free adults and aging. Thus she got into and became an expert on the topic.
It turns out to be a significant issue. Baby boomers nearly doubled the child-free population, up to almost 20% from 10% of previous generations. In the late 60s early 70s, baby boomers were the first generation who had the pill available to them. And, the women’s movement had kicked up steam. The result was doors began to open to women in prestigious universities and in the workplace. Young adulthood was very different. Women were free to go to college, get a good job, get married or not, and have children or not.
Biggest challenge as people get older—social support networks. When studying sources of happiness for these 60 and over, friends and friendship are very close to top-ranked relationships, just below with family. These relationships are crucial to keep people happy when they retire. Avoiding isolation is considered to be the most critical component to having a healthy and successful later life. Sara cautioned us against depending solely on a spouse or partner as one will, inevitably, decease before the other and leave the survivor isolated. Connections with extended family, work friends, social friends, and community should be developed and maintained. Without these relationships, people find themselves isolated, with their only connections being doctors, caregivers, and paid support. She encouraged us to consider how “sticky” are those in our social network.  
For solo agers, Sara also asked us to consider what adult children provide, especially for those aging in place.  
Remember the radio personality, Paul Harvey? Well, he used to read a list of centurions—usually 4-5 from the whole country, there just weren’t that many of them. There are a lot more now! People are living to 102. You should be planning on living longer than your parents. In fact, Sara’s financial advisor is building her model on her living to 103.
Another important consideration is where you will live. Many say, “they’ll drag me out of this place feet first.” That just might happen, and you might be alive when they do it. Sara encourages making decisions about where to go before the decision is made for you, or has to be made under stress. The ideal later living situation is to live somewhere with a community. This could be a retirement community or assisted living facility. It could also be a shared housing situation. She referenced Silvernest, a national organization. Nancy gave a shout-out for HIP Housing, a local group that facilitates shared housing. HIP helps connect people with extra rooms with people who are looking to rent a room.
Sara also strongly recommends that everyone have a solid estate plan that specifies who will have power of attorney and to update it every five-ten years (more frequently as you age). Also, have conversations with the person you are closest to who can help you.
Solo agers should be joiners where they come in contact with others, especially those younger than them. There are lots of ways to find people—religious, community, social organizations, book clubs, anything of interest to you. Cultivate younger friends.
There are a number of virtual groups for connecting solo agers. Many organizations provide access to educational programming, connections to people with common interests, workout groups, etc. These include Vitality Society, Amava (based on the Peninsula), and Next Avenue. Fritz reminded us that the SPCA would take your pet when you’re not available to “take care of little fluffy.”
Living in closer proximity to people is better than in far-flung homes in rural areas or disconnected in suburban areas. These relationships are so critical to health. If living in a neighborhood, it is great if you can get to know your neighbors. Sara closed by telling us how she and her husband got to know their neighbors—howling. Yep, that’s right, howling. At 8pm every night, Marin-ers go outside and howl. Awooooooooooooooooooooo!
And, with that, Emily presented the PolioPlus certificate to Sara, and the meeting was adjourned at 1:30.
If you’d like to reach out to Sara, her email is: sara@lifeencore.com.
Link to Zoom recording fo the meeting:
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